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“Music doesn’t always help me heal.
But at least playing is my way of talking to myself.
My Guitar listens. She agrees with me.”

-TM

This is something I learned a long time ago from a friend who told me how to define “abuse.”

“Once is enough.
Twice is too much.
Thrice is a poison
that can kill a person.”

Where do you set your limit?

One of the things I learned about myself
is that… I am still learning about myself.

I am a grown adult.
I am done with school.
I have completed the official stage of learning in my life.
But apparently,
not the “real” learning.

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It’s funny while I was writing that previous post,
I was thinking of how I was texting and messaging
my friends and loved ones in the Philippines.
Making sure they were alright.

Of course, I have to sweep through my phone address book
to see who I can contact and ask them how they were doing.
Despite the fact that it was a little scary what reply I would get
or if I would get one at all.
You can never know how bad the situation is.
Or was.

Luckily, most of them are alright.

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One of the things I don’t understand
when you are going through some difficulties in life,
and people say to you:

“You shouldn’t feel sad.
There are others who are going through worse things than you.”

I don’t know about you, but doesn’t that equate to saying:

“Don’t be happy
because there are other people happier than you?”

Correct me if I’m incorrect.

Those are “your” problems,
which was handed to you
whether you are equipped enough to handle it or not,
or strong enough to withstand it,
I say, Go ahead!
Scream out your frustrations if you have to.
You have the right to complain.
You have the right to be heard.

Be mad at everyone around you.
It’s okay. Not very many care anyway.

Be mad at God if you have to,
It’s okay. I’m pretty sure your God can take it.

Be mad at yourself.
It’s okay. You’re the only one who is going through it.

And do not believe when people tell you
“I know what you’re going through. I’ve been there.”

That is nonsense!
They do not know what you are going through.
They may have an “idea” of what you’re going through.
But they can never know.

Your sufferings are different from mine.
Your pains are different from mine.
Your heartbreak is different from mine.
Your misery is different from mine.

It’s okay.
Be mad.

I get mad too.
I’ve had my shares of pain and sorrows.

But, don’t forget.
All of these have an opposite.
It also has an equal.

You will have your time of joy and happiness too.
Your time to shine and to be recognized.
Your time will come when you will have laughter and bliss.

And then, you will also realize that
people don’t know how you feel when you are happy either.
They might have an “idea,”
but they don’t know how happy you feel.

Don’t people think you’re crazy
when they see you laughing your socks off?

Exactly!
They can’t know it.

So it’s the same as being mad or sad.
They don’t know.

Which brings me to my point.
Other people do not know or do not care
what you go through.

What they think of you does not matter.
They are not going to lose sleep when you are sad.
Even if they are the reason you were sad in the first place.

It doesn’t matter what they think if you are happy either.
Most of them just get jealous and talk about you anyway.

None of that matter.

All that matters..
is You.

“All good things come to an end.
Bad things have an ending too.”